The ones that got away

How great and successful must the life of an ex be before they can be revealed as "the one that got away"? How happy must they be, and how miserable should we feel after our story never came to be to finally admit that they are "the one that got away"? Should they be an official "ex", a potential mate or just a temporary fling?

How excellent must our past relationships be? How many people must we love, leave, brake up with, pass by, ignore, deny, be denied by, before we can look back and said "I let that one got away."

Both men and women share that experience; there are places we look and long for Love, while there are moments where Love comes to us, either by accident, at the perceived worst moment, or in a seemingly much disguised form that we fail to recognize it. Either time, we make a decision to ignore the present moment in hope of a better future. We decide to wait, or pass up a perfectly fitting opportunity believing that there is more and better where we are going.

After a long journey, we finally realize that the other grass was only greener from far away, up close it is rather yellowish, brownish...yeah it is yeurk, and it is called single life...

While you are observing the damaged landscape of your romantic life, in the midst of large brownish spaces, they are a few green spots that serves as a reminder that this was once a fertile ground; it is at that moment that your friends become journalists and relay the scoops:

Friend A: Hey man, do you remember Nadine? I think she's finally over you man, she's dating a Pilot or something....

You: Really? wow, well It's good for her man, I hope she finds happiness.

You are really happy for her,
but you nevertheless feel a little like an expired product

Friend B: Hey, remember your ex Gina? Well, she's getting married to some kind a finance guru in the Bahamas; I was invited, but I ain't sure if I should go, you know since you and her...but I always wanted to go to the Bahamas, so...

You: C'mon man, Go, what's got to do with me, I already did what I had to do with her...if you see what I mean....have fun and tell her congratulations.

Relegated to send wishes to your ex via your own friend...
You look at him in the eyes;
Your eyes say "TRAITOR", his eyes say "LIAR".

Friend C: Yo, I ran into your former babe Meron, wow...she is uber uber Hot...why did you guys break up again? I thought she was so into you man...

You: Yeah, I mean...you know, at the time, it wasn't the right time...you know being ready, jobs and Sh***, but she was awesome, maybe it was a mistake, I don't know...

Friend C: Too bad dude, cuz she got a new man she seems to love, she said they got engaged last month...guy got that car you love, that german s***.

You: Yeah...guess I let that one got away....hunh?

This is why we always check on our exes in hope that they are still not over us...

Friend D: I thought Sabrina was ready to settle man, I mean you told me you were ready as well...what happened?

You: Say no more...I am a douche....

You spend the next months revisiting history, pondering on what could've been, what you could've done. You try to justify what was then, hoping to find peace in what is now. You never get over the fact that someone you could've been with is now happy with someone else; it is like dumping a stock only to see it gain major points the next day...sickening...

Most people have this one person they were madly in love with, one individual they really wanted to marry, etc..; however as time passes, every exes who jumps into the bliss of romantic success joins that elusive one...suddenly, there is no longer "the ONE" that got away, but "the ONES" that got away...

For the Christian man, it becomes a spiritual dilemma...maybe God is saving someone from me, maybe there was something God saw in them that would've been bad for me, maybe God this, maybe God that...it becomes so hard to conceive our inability to recognize and welcome happiness, that we blame a spiritual reality to the matter...

If God wants me to be happily married, then it makes no sense for me to still be single...must be His doing then...

God also said, no sheep can be snatched out of His hand, so the ones that got away? It’s on you...