The Seven deadly Sins of Relationships: Conclusion

One of the great things about being single is sandwiched between the desperate loneliness of the hopeless romantic, and the almost criminal careless behavior of the serial dater; that stage is the arrogant condition of the hopeful single.

Many single people find their refuge in the aspiration of finding the right person, and the comfort of not having made the mistakes of those who took the plunge. What is viewed as a lack of guts in the serial dater team, is associated with reckless insouciance from the hopeless romantic team; in other words, we are talking about the independent in the political analogy to dating, those who have mastered the art of inaction.

After taking a good look at the 7 deadly sins of Relationships, I have amazingly found my Polidating party. We, the proud members of the inactive wing are like political pundits: We are expert observer who make detailed analysis about what the others are doing wrong (or right), but in spite of that, we are still not qualified to assume their position.

What made it easy to reflect and observe the things that ruin a relationship and the pitfalls that can be avoided is none other that the reality of being on the fence. After all, fans and supporter are always the ones to have a good idea about what their team is doing wrong, however few of them are actually capable of playing.

Not to dismiss the observations which I am convinced do play a great role in helping and destroying relationships, I have just realize that like a double-edge sword, they do offer another angle at this type of single-hood: Too afraid to make a mistake, not desperate enough to take a risk.

When you're tired of being single, you just reflect on all who fell victims of the 7 deadly sins, and you tell yourself, maybe I need to wait and be more ready; however, when you realize that you have identified and know how to avoid all the pitfalls, you assume "well, I got it covered, I can take my time."

In conclusion, The Seven deadly sins of Relationships do shed light on the 8th and final sin, the one thing that ultimately prohibits many people from finding Happiness: FEAR

Not necessarily in a spooky form, and because of that, easily dismiss and re-casted in various form. The fear of not being loved enough, the fear of being abandoned, cheated on, the fear of not being appreciated, the fear of being taken for granted, the fear of not being pretty enough, the fear of not being sexy enough, etc...you name it, any fear that creeps in at any stage and in any form compels many to compensate through various behaviors from vanity to Lust.

Fear is the opposite of Faith, Fear paralyzes and eliminate any form of action. The fear of making a mistake leads one to wait until the utmost perfect timing that may never come, and the fear of being left behind motivates some to rush at the risk of making mistakes after mistakes.

I have danced around 6 of the deadly sins (I have never expressed wrath toward any partner), But I realized that if I can absolve myself from any of those relationsins, I have yet to run away from the 8th. The fear of making a bad marriage, a bad relationship.

I do find comfort however in the knowledge that women carry all the 7 deadly sins, and yet, it doesn't stop us from Loving them. It is not in Loving perfection that we find Happiness but in Perfect Love, and as I will review The seven deadly sins of women, I will sit and ponder on my own fear and find the courage to accept that there is no way to fully know the future or avoid every potential danger; however, perfect Love will help overcome any deadly sins out there. So pick a side...Just do it.

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear