7 things I learned about women

Women, we try to love them for what we would like them to be, what we think they ought to be, what we perceive they want to be, and about anything except what they are, and what they say they are. two of the toughest things in life are 1- finding truth in the word of the Devil, and 2- understanding women.

Without attempting to speak for them, here are nonetheless 7 things I have observed about women:

1. They do have wandering eyes

Men often get a harsh treatment for having "wandering eyes", and they spend too much time trying to defend themselves that they forget that their accuser is actually a master of multi-tasking. Pay close attention and you will realize that your woman notices other men, other women and if you notice other women as well...all at the same time. While you are so caught up trying to "Ninja-up" your looking technique, your woman has already noticed the cute guy by the bar, the hot girl who may be a threat, and the athletic babe with a hot body she envy...all that while noticing which one of the two girls you are drooling at...you may be a pig, but she's the one with real wandering eyes.

2. They Love sex more than we do

All men think about is sex...men's brain is between their legs...men get such a bad rap for their presumed excessive libido. It seems that the dance is about men trying, and women attempting to restrain the appetite. And when a man finally achieves his goal, they say he got lucky...the fascinating thing is that for all the "Women can live without sex, men can't", it is impressive that once we hit the sack, suddenly the expert is not the one who constantly "think" about sex, but the one who seemingly is always saying No to it. Let's face it, women end up being technically superior, creatively dominant and extremely perfectionist when it comes to sex to just casually think about it...next time you see your girlfriend wash glasses, sweep the floor, pump the gas in the car...believe there is a sexual thought somewhere...and if it wasn't for a childlike demanding attitude and fragile ego...they'd admit it...they love sex more than we do.

3. They can eat

For all the education that young men receive about treating women, Food provides the biggest surprise. Open the door for them, Check. Pick up items that fall on the floor for them, Check. Pull the chair at dinner, ask for a dance, compliment her dress, offer flowers, etc...all good. Food is ready, Ladies first... Wake up call!!!!! ladies first because it is assumed that women don't eat that much, ladies first because it is assumed that if men go first, women will starve....yeah right. I had a few open-eyes experience to know that "Food is ready, Ladies first" can be gastronomic suicide. After all, they eat when they're sad, they eat when they're stressed, they eat when happy, and of course they eat when hungry...a good lady don't eat much is a defense mechanism...why do you think they're always dieting...don't be fooled...Women can eat like the best of us.

4. They can be vain

Three things I am sure women cannot leave without: the cellphone, chocolate and mirrors. Obsessed with their look, concerned by the look of others, incapable to walk next to a reflective surface without posing to check themselves out...they have two feet, but request a zillion shoes. The love story between women and their appearance is well chronicled. They'll tell you "every women is obsess with one part of her body that she hates"...yeah, ok, but that leaves pretty much 99% of herself that she adores. Think about it, a beautiful woman by a man's side is a trophy, a good looking man by a woman's side is an accessory: good enough to be paraded and showed off, but tame enough not to overshadow the glory of madam. A beautiful woman is the greatest achievement of a man, a good looking man is another tool a woman uses to make other women jealous and enhance her own Charisma....oh vanity.

5. They can redefine what stealing is:

A woman is a prize to be conquered, a man a property to be stolen...When a man sees something he likes that someone else has, he hopes to get the same. A woman will hope to possess the very object of her desire. A man attempt to emulate, a woman strive to substitute. Men are often viewed as ultra competitive, but in truth, women are more competitive, they just tend to get real nasty in doing so that it's better to keep it "in the closet". Women can subtly take over your entire life right under your nose and you'll never realize, you'll just find yourself living for them. Men and their macho nature wants the audience when they're in a quest, and the acclaim when they succeed; Women...they are like cold blooded snakes, subtle, sneaky, controlling things from behind the scene...no wonder that behind every great man, there is a great woman; and behind every fallen man, there is also a great woman who took him down...don't knock yourself Tiger, at the top or not, a woman would take the credit...

6. So greedy

The only thing that women like better than making their own money is spending the man's money. Women will complain about the professional glass ceiling, the disparity in salaries and economic independence; however, they never see a problem with women get in free before midnight, women drink free all night, child support, alimony, etc...when it suits them, they are an economic force to be reckoned with, and in other times, the poor female victim that is so dependent on her man...leave it to them to prop up the ego of the male, and when expenses comes, he proudly pulls out his wallet...and when that day comes where he is caught with a bimbo half his age...the good ol lady is financially secured with her saving, and extra cash from whatever punishment our philandering yahoo is getting...smart, very smart...but I'm a guy..so I say GREEDY....

7. A violent nature

Yeah...like I'm going to go there...safety first....

In conclusion, that creature that we call woman is far from perfect, actually she shares many of the shortcomings she accuses man of having. What is also worth learning from all this is that women do not necessarily enjoy being on diets all the time, or depriving themselves from a succulent chocolate cake. Walking on heels is not necessarily comfortable and healthy for your toes. Going to the hairdresser, doing manicure, makeups takes time and is not an innate knowledge. Clothes, shoes and accessory cost money and the best looking ones are not necessarily the most comfy ones...having to debate with oneself if natural desires such as sex, attraction, companionship, intimacy are within the framework of social acceptance and standard can be like solving a complicated equation...yet woman do that all day, for years...they do it for themselves and for us...most of the time for us, so we may have the decency to notice the effort and time spent, and even if it doesn't lead anywhere, we can at least have the merit of telling them something like :"nice dress miss, you look beautiful today".

They may brush it off, not answer, ignore you or simply tell you that they are not interested right away...but for all the effort put in trying to look beautiful, at least they'll pursue their day with the satisfaction that at least the discomfort, and the effort was not in vain. They will leave feeling a lot better about themselves that the few seconds before they met you...this I know much...Looking good ladies.

The Seven deadly Sins of Relationships: Conclusion

One of the great things about being single is sandwiched between the desperate loneliness of the hopeless romantic, and the almost criminal careless behavior of the serial dater; that stage is the arrogant condition of the hopeful single.

Many single people find their refuge in the aspiration of finding the right person, and the comfort of not having made the mistakes of those who took the plunge. What is viewed as a lack of guts in the serial dater team, is associated with reckless insouciance from the hopeless romantic team; in other words, we are talking about the independent in the political analogy to dating, those who have mastered the art of inaction.

After taking a good look at the 7 deadly sins of Relationships, I have amazingly found my Polidating party. We, the proud members of the inactive wing are like political pundits: We are expert observer who make detailed analysis about what the others are doing wrong (or right), but in spite of that, we are still not qualified to assume their position.

What made it easy to reflect and observe the things that ruin a relationship and the pitfalls that can be avoided is none other that the reality of being on the fence. After all, fans and supporter are always the ones to have a good idea about what their team is doing wrong, however few of them are actually capable of playing.

Not to dismiss the observations which I am convinced do play a great role in helping and destroying relationships, I have just realize that like a double-edge sword, they do offer another angle at this type of single-hood: Too afraid to make a mistake, not desperate enough to take a risk.

When you're tired of being single, you just reflect on all who fell victims of the 7 deadly sins, and you tell yourself, maybe I need to wait and be more ready; however, when you realize that you have identified and know how to avoid all the pitfalls, you assume "well, I got it covered, I can take my time."

In conclusion, The Seven deadly sins of Relationships do shed light on the 8th and final sin, the one thing that ultimately prohibits many people from finding Happiness: FEAR

Not necessarily in a spooky form, and because of that, easily dismiss and re-casted in various form. The fear of not being loved enough, the fear of being abandoned, cheated on, the fear of not being appreciated, the fear of being taken for granted, the fear of not being pretty enough, the fear of not being sexy enough, etc...you name it, any fear that creeps in at any stage and in any form compels many to compensate through various behaviors from vanity to Lust.

Fear is the opposite of Faith, Fear paralyzes and eliminate any form of action. The fear of making a mistake leads one to wait until the utmost perfect timing that may never come, and the fear of being left behind motivates some to rush at the risk of making mistakes after mistakes.

I have danced around 6 of the deadly sins (I have never expressed wrath toward any partner), But I realized that if I can absolve myself from any of those relationsins, I have yet to run away from the 8th. The fear of making a bad marriage, a bad relationship.

I do find comfort however in the knowledge that women carry all the 7 deadly sins, and yet, it doesn't stop us from Loving them. It is not in Loving perfection that we find Happiness but in Perfect Love, and as I will review The seven deadly sins of women, I will sit and ponder on my own fear and find the courage to accept that there is no way to fully know the future or avoid every potential danger; however, perfect Love will help overcome any deadly sins out there. So pick a side...Just do it.

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear

LUST

I had hoped it wouldn't come to this, that moment of silence between us that compelled an eye contact which immediately betrayed the passion I had worked so hard to concealed. I cannot even begin to explain how it started, maybe it was access, probably opportunity or maybe the fact that very few men have the opportunity to have a beautiful woman in their life, and not entertain the thought of being with her.

All it took was the acknowledgement of her beauty, yet only in my mind; then came the availability of knowing her and seeing her often. Finally came the circumstances where I could see and interact with her very close corners: her space and her feelings.

Every time she shared about her childhood, her joys, pains and heartbreaks, I felt a little more part of her life. Soon after anything she would wear would instill a sexual impulsion in me; if she was covered from toe to chest, I would glanced at the shoulder with uncontrollable desires. When she wore shorts, all I visualize were her legs, any inches of skin, even the least erogenous ones would nonetheless command an increased sexual appetite.

What can I say about her movements, the way she walked, the way she danced, the way she ran, it didn't matter if she was trying to pick up a laundry bag or moving a chair, in my already captivated mind, each of her moves, even the most mundane ones, were sensual acts meant to arouse me.

I battled my mind and tried to tame my eyes, not to avail. I was not strong enough to domesticate my desires, because my enemy had already crossed my defensive line. All it took was an eye contact, a seemingly innocent remark, and an insightful question, and there I knew that everything I had attempted to bury in mind and erase from my thought, would just travel from my own head to hers, only to return again.

We were fighting the same battle on two different bodies. Our subtle observance of one another was similar to romantic dance in a long extinct tribal language. We then asked ourselves, "why not?"

With the long anticipation of fulfilling our fantasies, we longed for the opportunity to touch one another in a way that so far had been forbidden to us. We could not stand in front of the chance to finally see one another in a way that was so far unacceptable and hear each other expressed ourselves in a passionate way that had been denied for so long. At that moment, our common sense retreated in dark corner in shame, while our bodies valiantly summoned the march by transforming itself in a heightened way. our eyes, our touches, our smell, everything seemed so palpable, so sensitive, so soft, so nice...yes very nice.

We gave ourselves to one another in a passionate way that neither felt had been experienced before, and yet it had. What we had given ourselves to was LUST, not passion. What common sense did not tell us before it retreated is that it was taking wisdom with it. Wisdom would have told us that Lust is like a drug, full of side effects.

We are incorrigible in that way, like petulant child, we often act without weighing the consequences of our actions. when we conceived the possibility of sleeping together, we refused to consider the outcome of our actions. We ignore that we were married, dating, friends and incapable to live up to the consequences of our actions. And so we hurt ourselves, hurt others and moved on with more confusion...until society feeling bad for us came to our rescue and told us that it is OK; We should do what we feel like doing, we should let our bodies and sense control us, because the opposite is impossible. Society told us that everybody does it, it is natural, it is what God wanted, which is why it such a strong urge.

"IT" is Lust, the strong and uncontrollable appetite for sexual desires. Lust is the final and most deadly of the 7 relationsins. Lust is conceived in our heads, and we do not know how to satisfy it, so we do whatever it takes, even if it takes envy, Vanity, Gluttony, Sloth, Avarice or Wrath. It doesn't matter if we are single or not, when Lust creeps in unchecked, like a drug, we are consumed by the only thought of how we are going to satisfy it.

It is not surprising that Sex occupy such a big part of our society, and has been a source of contention for generations. How to control it, how to contain it, how to express it, or how to achieve a lot of it. Alas, unlike Love, Lust is not lasting and is pleasurable only until fulfilled, then it unleashes an array of baggages that leaves confused, disappointed and eventually vulnerable to more Lust.

Lust is not a behavioral sin, but a psychological one. The failure of many comes from their attempt to resist and fight Lust. Lust is defeated with a preemptive strike. There is no shame in avoiding a hot babe that wants you if it means saving relationship; there is no honor in sleeping with another man because you are unhappy in your relationship.

Lust is the romantic equivalent get-rich-quick schemes, a high risk, quick return ponzi scheme that will quicly burst like the housing market, and in some cases, because of Lust, some will literary lose their home; SO take it easy Tiger (pun intended), and run before Lust takes over.

There will always be another beautiful woman you have never seen, there will always be another man who finds you attractive, there will always be a hotter body and more attractive portfolio. It is the second you decide to entertain the thought of actually imagining the possibility of...that Lust begins and causes all the actions seen in the other Relationsins.

Lust is the devil's favorite weapon, and men and women alike have succumbed to the desire to be with someone else, would it be just for a night, an hour, a minute?

For the single, Lust would take one in a quest for a mirage that will never quench their thirst. For the one in a relationship, it would deceive into giving the impression that we made the wrong choice.

In either way, to avoid Lust, one must learn from Joseph, who chose to ran away from Potiphar's wife. One must learn from me who chose to lock myself in a room to avoid doing something wrong (my 1 victory over many defeats).

We shall always remember, that it is not because we saw that we need to conquer. Once conceived, Lust is virtually unbeatable, so we ought to act before it takes root.

James 1: 14-15

But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own Lust, and enticed.

Then when Lust has conceived, it bringeth forth sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.