SLOTH

Among the 7 deadly Relationsins, Sloth is the one I call the "middle Child". Sloth rightfully assumes its position in the family pattern observed so far, as Vanity fuels Gluttony that itself gives birth to Avarice, which will give way to Sloth. At the same time, Sloth is particular among the first 3 in a way that it can stand on its own and destroy an existing healthy relationship.

The Linkage between the first three sins are so close that Vanity is such a stumbling block in building a relationship that either it is caught early and prevent the growth of the next two sins, or if ignored, it almost certainly will bring Gluttony and Avarice. Sloth is different; it can hurt a relationship in 2 ways:

1. As the continuation of the first 3 sins
2. As a new beast self-created.

In the first case, the damage has already been done, a proud handsome man knows he has game (Vanity), he wishes to settle down but knowing that he can have any woman he wants compels him to multiply relationships (Gluttony). He doesn't want to lose any of his conquests so he makes false promises, he doesn't commit, but still make romantic advances so the women keep hoping (avarice). Even the best of us cannot defy father time, and what the devil gives with right hand, he takes back with the left. even the most patient woman cannot wait eternally, even the most devoted lover can only stand so much betrayal, and when one by one disillusion by empty promises, they leave for other more secure and promising relationship, they nonetheless keep an eye toward the one they loved, just to see, just to catch a glimpse of change, just to see if maybe...

They will not see anything because although he is losing so many opportunities to finally settle down, The proud, the glutton, the greedy will not make a move. Proverbs 13: 19 says:

"It is pleasant to see dreams come true, but fools refuse to turn from evil to attain them"

As such, even as his dream sails away, that man cannot give away his habits and change his ways; the roots of his sin is too deep, the damages caused by his life choices are to strong, but most importantly, he has lost the will to try and work for it. His proud look has prevented him from ever working to get a woman, his gluttonous nature has convinced him that he will always have as many women as he wishes, and his avarice has blinded him to believe that they will never leave him. Easy success breeds complacency, and like an old emperor, vanity requires to never raise a finger. So the man panics, try to convince himself that it nothing but a drought season in his romantic campaign, but the result is the same, he is too lazy to pursue even one those women, he is too lazy to make the first move, he is to lazy to start anew and seduce a new woman to achieve his dream, he is even to proud and lazy to ask for God's help...which is why God said in Proverbs 19:24

"A slothful man hideth his hand in his bosom, and will not so much as bring it to his mouth again" or for a more blunt translation, "Lazy people take food in their hand but don't even lift it to their mouth."

Subsequently, the man laziness force him to be a spectator of his own demise where his slothfulness prevents him from ceasing even the slightest glimmer of hope that each woman is giving him.

Every relationship requires work, but not all of us start at the same level. Some have to work extra hard to even approach a woman, while others are blessed enough to really start working on kick-starting the relationship because women flock to them. At the end of the day however, they all demand work and energy, and for those who are too proud of their past achievement or lack of effort, Slothfulness is a sin that can doom a relationship before it even starts. When that happens there are only two ways to look at: Behind us are the regrets that reminds us of what could be, while ahead is the image of what could be, and when see that, we are faced with the second option: Envy

But before we look at Envy, we should remember that Sloth does not only target the proud insensitive who disregard others emotions; even in the comfort of a seemingly solid relationship, unlike the other sin, Sloth can still wreck havoc...

"Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap"