How does one leads to two?

I am now fully persuaded when I stand in front of the mirror, that I am a Christian man; which is also why I often avoid the mirror. When the struggle of conversion have passed, what remains is the pressure to uphold the new belief. The life of a Christian is full of benefits, it doesn't mean that it is a cakewalk. Victory is not promised as a result of peace, but of a daily battle over an enemy set on distracting one from his walk.

This is not a war one wages as a lonesome, lonely and antisocial Hero; this is a fight where Batman, superman, Zorro, Bruce lee, chuck Norris all need to band together and fight as a team.

John Donne (1572-1631) said That "No man is an island", because God first declared that "it is not good for man to be alone" (Genesis 2:18). He (God) also established that "two are better than one."(Ecclesiastes 4:9)

Once you reassert your faith, the void becomes omnipresent and that feeling of perpetual quest to fill it is unbearable. You wonder how you have been able to live without it in the past, only to realize that you've always looked for it, but always at the wrong place and for the wrong reasons.

When you read "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD" (Proverbs 18:22), you are pleased by the promise, but insecure about the word "find"; because finding involves looking, finding implies searching, finding includes decision...and your experience have showed you that it is a treacherous path of romantic uncertainty, so many have made mistakes that way, mistakes that have led to divorces, unfaithfulness, heartbreaks, insecurity, abuse, loss of identity, etc...you turn to God so you could avoid making the mistakes that are bound because you are not perfect...

You rather rely on the verse that says "In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths"(Proverbs 3:6). This is what you want, for God to direct your path, to lead you to her...

If only it was that easy, if only you could be controlled, hypnotized and guided to her doorsteps; but No, there is such thing as freedom of choice, freedom to search, freedom to decide, freedom to find.

It is not Victory from peace, but victory after effort, sacrifice and commitment; this is what the man in the mirror would say if you took time to talk with him.

So you remember the verse "Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and He shall direct your paths."

You've searched and finally found; was it divine providence or simply luck? you don't know, you do not rely on your own understanding. You just walk with the confidence that He is with you, and the fear that you might be seriously rejected and humiliated.

You tell yourself "I can do it, I can do it...."

Finally, you approach the beautiful woman you've been staring at for the past 2 hours and with all the courage you can muster, you open your mouth and timidly say: "Excuse, miss, my name is...., and I was wondering if..."

Rejection or Not, this is your first Victory in the quest to become two...only problem? it is Victory for the first battle, now the war continues...

If you trust Him, he will definitely direct your steps, if you're unsure like I was, just keep asking, but then be ready for His very clear answer: "I will lead you if you would first MOVE YOUR @$$"...

Didn't feel that good, but it worked...

Ideal Woman

I took out the lamp of my faith and rubbed it as hard as I could; God appeared on to me, His eyes full of Love, his attention all focused on me. He said:

"What can I do for you my son, Ask me anything?"

I asked: Father, I don’t want to take your time, I only ask that you answer me two questions; Do you know the ideal woman I hide in my heart?

God replied: Of course my son, I know the deepest desire of your heart. You long for a woman 3 to 4 years younger than you, and have strong family values. You are attracted to strong cultures, and fantasize about a woman who has the glamour of Hollywood, the romance of Bollywood and the beauty of Nollywood. You want a girl that is athletic, active with a good sense of humor. You expect a sex symbol with the virtue of a nun, a mother to be who is career oriented. You envision a liberated woman who is conservative at the same time. You are ready to accept a woman who reinforces your faith and moderate your vices…tell me, isn’t that so?

“That is true Lord,” I said, “but unfortunately, I do not know any woman like that, have you forgotten about me?”

“No, son, God replied, “I have not; you will find such a woman 7 years from now.”

“7 years…that is too long Lord, why so much time God?”

“It takes patience to find the ideal woman my son...7 years is your IDEAL WAIT.”

“Certainly I cannot wait 7 years” I thought, if I tell God to pick for me, surely He will pick the ideal girl now. “Lord I just want to do your will; just let me know who you do recommend and I may take her.”

“Of course my son", God answered, “I am sure you have seen the young nurse at your dentist office, she is in the right age bracket, has a kind heart, a willingness to know me, the ambition to motivate you and the compassion to support you. She has a patient heart, the caring nature of a mother, the attentive hear of a sister and the devotion of a wife. She also has the humility and wisdom to be receptive to your courtship.”

“The nurse at the dentist office!!?” I screamed incredulous, “but father, she is nothing like my ideal woman, she doesn’t create rumbles in my stomach, sweaty palms when I see her or inexplicable shyness. Her body is not in that great of a shape, and in all frankness, she barely has the curves that capture my imagination, plus she has seen the atrocities in my mouth. She is barely eligible for my fantasies, how could she be my ideal woman? How do you explain that?

"This, my son is IDEAL SACRIFICE."

“I do not understand Lord” I pleaded “I just do not understand.”

In the sight of my despair, God took me in his arms and explained:

“If you take the nurse now, and love her like she deserves, because of her heart and character, she will appreciate you, and do all to make you happy in return. Her effort to please you will transform her, and in 7 years from now, she will be the ideal woman you long for, even beyond; however, since I have already chosen her for you, you still persist on waiting, 7 years from now, you will see her beauty and want her, but she will not take you, and will make you wait for 7 more years. This will mean that you will see your ideal woman 7 years from now, but you will only be able to be with her 14 years from now.”

“Why is that father?" I asked sadly

God replied: “It is so my son, because while it will take her 7 years to be your ideal woman, it will take you 14 years to be her ideal man. This my son, is IDEAL TIMING.”

Finally I asked: "Father if it takes her 7 years to be my ideal woman, me 14 years to be her ideal man, and all this is ideal timing, how is it possible for us to be together now...it obviously won't be ideal time."

God smiled and added: " You are right son, if you wish your ideal woman, you will need to make the ideal wait and sacrifice for the ideal timing; but if you act now, my grace will be sufficient for you...and you won't need ideal timing, you will have PERFECT TIMING."