The Paradigm

Okay, they say misery loves company...hum...I say Misery attracts mockery rather.

It appears that the revelation of my mostly unsuccessful attempts to be hitched did not bring forth much sympathy. Two responses caught my attention in the past days. I am single because:

1. I am a man in a boat with a goat in the middle of a Storm, God sends an helicopter and a bigger boat to save me, but I die because I can't recognize His actions.


2. I Had all the good ones, but let them go, now I am alone

In other words, either I am so dumb I wouldn't recognize my future wife even if she was standing in front of me dressed in white in a chapel; Or, I am being punished because for my youthful cockiness. Well, it is all so plausible, but I am more comfortable in the idea that maybe God and I do not speak the same language, or the best has yet to come...either ways, not my fault, let's move on...:-)

Now how can God give me that elusive beauty? could have been so simple, but then again, I was hit by a cold shower: There is a rule book. For God to help me, I must go by His standard.

So?

Well, it means that the stunning beauty with a perfect face, standing at 5 ft 6, with 36-22-40 is out of the way...that isn't really fair. Didn't God promised the desire of my heart? I may have been better served with online dating.

Yeah, we saw how that one went....when you sign up for facebook, online dating, etc...don't you see and accept the terms and agreement? Isn't it required if you want to enjoy the services you seek? well, if you want to enjoy God's dating services, you have to read and sign the terms and agreement as well. I'll start with Proverbs 31 in your case...lol

Hum...I guess it's true (stupid voice of reason), There is no sense asking God for a woman, if I do not understand what He describes as a good woman. My hope is that He lives up to His terms and agreement, because online dating really played me between the promise and the response...Alright, let's read that book, and see if self-respect, kindness and reverence are better than wild, sexy and independent.

This is already harder than normal.....geez!!!!

The Mission

I have been called many things in my life...I have been called skinny (a lot), funny, annoying, lazy, annoying, idiot, smart, tiring, annoying, funny, weird, etc...I took it all, been traumatized by some, laughed at the rest and ignored what was left.

Fortunately for me, I have never been called ugly in my life (until after some read this post I guess). As discouraging and hurtful as it can be to be called ugly by anyone, even in arguments, I cannot recall anybody calling me that...and I Thank God for that.

Now granted, I am no Will Smith, Denzel, Clooney or Brad Pitt, but I am confident that I will not lose a beauty contest to Flavor flav either....

With each person trying to elucidate the mystery of my singlehood, in light of my admitted desire to settle down, once again "why am I still single? I DO NOT KNOW!!!

Picky? no, just selective. Shy? Not enough to pass on a great woman. Afraid? Am a guy, aren't I? Gay? sure you want that to be the last word of your life?

The wise man tried to help on the issue of life:

1. Club scene: Too much mistrust...and it's expensive
2. Online dating: Too impersonal...and it's expensive
3. Mutual friends: Too risky...and it's expensive (for your ego)
4. Blind date: Too dangerous...and it's expensive (for your safety)
5. Arranged marriage: Hey!!!!!
6. Free social events: Too imprecise...but it's cheap
7. Hook-up: Too immature...and it's expensive (for your reputation)
8. God: Come again?

Well, you've tried the clubs, bars, dating (blind, online and hook-up), what would it cost you to give God a try...hum, maybe the fact that the only link between God and relationships I have heard of stems from a certain area of not doing something, before someone becomes something for you at some time...it was not the best PR compaign, but it had merits healthwise.

Well, in lights of the strong desire to settle, and the desperate mood at hand, I say why not...if God fails too, at least we will all know what stands at the end of the road...or I could have a last option in the Pay-for bride russian thingy...lol

So this is the mission: Chronicle the evolution of dating, Bible style. To love or not to love, secular or Christian way, this is the objective. First step: What to look for?

The Challenging statement: I am Christian, but emanicpated, or I am single, but Christian...hum!!!