The last two sins in the series are probably the sexiest of all: Wrath and Lust; the first one seems to convey Power, confidence, intimidation, "respect" and fear. The second one appeals to the senses and the very thing that most people long for at first in a relationship.
Fear and intimidation are good indeed if you are the terminator, while may be useful if you are applying for playboy, but in seeking a meaningful relationship, they are well placed explosives at the foundation of your love life.
Wrath, the strong vengeful anger or indignation is manifested by inexplicable burst of violent or aggressive emotion seems to be out of place in a relationship supposedly meant to be between two individuals who love one another, and yet....and yet...
Wrath or precisely here violence in a relationship is a progressive behavior; nobody in their right state of mind would see someone and say: "hum...this person looks like they would throw me across the room if angry....I am so hot for him...or her..."
Clearly, violence is not a magical appearance, or a surprising feat, on the contrary signs are always present. I always promised myself that regardless the person I will date, or the nature of a disagreement, two things were always out of the window: screams and profanities.
How do you reconcile saying that you Love someone and use the most vile language toward them? even when angry, there is no way to justify it. Sometimes, a couple will talk to one another in a way that they will never address a stranger or someone they distaste. Nobody question that disagreement will occur in a relationship, but mentioning her weight that you precisely know she is sensitive about is a vicious blow, just like mentioning a certain part of his anatomy you know is directly connected to his self-esteem is a clear indication of a refusal to solve the matter.
Most experienced couples often advice younger ones on the importance of communication, and the underlining message involves healthy communication. Communication is the gateway of the behavior.
I always perceived that a woman who is able to vilified her man with words will do much worse when given the chance to act upon it. To each woman I know I always say, "If he belittles you with words, he will be inconsiderate if you are physically hurt; If he hits the wall when angry at you, it's only a matter of time before you become the wall.
It only make sense that for all our justified anger, disagreements, or else, the one we profess to love should be the one experiencing the mildest form of our shortcomings, not the worse. If he allows you to see his worst, it is not a form of trust or comfort, but the indication that he tries harder with others.
Wrath is the steroid of Relationsins, the one that can take it from good to bad in a spin...it is the complete opposite of Lust, which is like a slow poison, killing you before you realize that you are going.
Words in general are hard to take back, less again those that hurt; in each case, words only announce the arrival of the nature of a calvary of behaviors that will follow.
Be you angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down on your wrath
Ephesians 4:26
